Talk! Don’t be Shy!

Sex drive needn’t take a nose dive during menopause. It can be treated but only if women throw away their inhibition and communicate the problem early.

Menopause – the “M” word that marks the end of fertility – is a enopause – the “M” word that marks the end of fertility – is a natural event that women hate to hear and talk about. It happens when ovaries stop releasing eggs and the production of sex hormones (namely estrogen and progesterone) decreases.

This is also a period when sex drive decreases, affecting a woman’s relationship with her husband. Other symptoms that can make a woman’s life insufferable during menopause include hot flushes, sleeplessness, fatigue and mood swings.

Suffer in silence

Sex for peri- and post-menopause women is a taboo subject and many women are too shy to discuss the topic with their spouse or doctor.

There is really no need to suffer in silence as sex is an important aspect of a woman’s relationship – regardless of age. So, women shouldn’t think they’re alone with the problem.

Most physicians attribute poor libido to decrease in female sex hormones, compounded by negative changes in mood and poor wellbeing after menopause. Another reason is the decline in androgens or testosterone. Testosterone affects a person’s
vitality and is related to a woman’s sexual wellbeing, sexual interest and responsiveness. Androgen levels start to decline over the 10 years before menopause when women are in their 40s.

Merdians to take care

The Bladder Meridian is where our vital energy is stored for times of need. This is our ability to hold on to ideas, to stay with things to retain vital chi itself. If we are tired it is good to look at the Bladder meridian.

The Kidney Meridian is the centre of our will and determination. This part of us is like water ; when roused nothing can get in our way, when quiet can still erode a mighty mountain. When unwell we don't have the will to do anything.

Herbal Essential Oils to use in Meridian Massage:

- Dang Gui (Angelica)
- Juniper
- Chuan Xiong
- Szechuan Lovage Rhizome

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TCM for the Treatment of Women’s Issues

Traditional Chinese Medicine(TCM), which uses acupuncture, acupressure and herbal remedies, is very successful in treating gynecological issues that women face monthly. Weather you suffer from hormone imbalances, PMS, painful menstruation, endometriosis or infertility…acupuncture can help. Eastern medicine seeks to restore health by treating the entire body - not just addressing the symptoms - bringing the body back to a state of health and vitality. Studies have proven that Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) is effective in treating women’s health issues.
The theory of acupuncture dates back thousands of years and is based on the balance of energy flow throughout the body. There is a negative impact if a blockage or imbalance occurs.

Like a river, if debris accumulates, water is prevented or limited to flow down stream. In order for optimal health and wellness the energy must flow freely. To promote this flow of energy, point combinations are stimulated with Acupressure masssages according to problems you are experiencing.

The smallest imbalance in the endocrine system can alter the way the body produces hormones. Many menstrual irregularities arise from a disturbance in hormone levels…whether you have missed your period for months, are bleeding heavily every two weeks, experience excessive mood swings or have extreme pain related to your cycle.
Health is restored by stimulating your own natural production of hormones.

Pre-menstrual syndrome (PMS) is a disorder that affects 40 million women each year. Of the 150 symptoms related to PMS, many commonly experienced are: mood swings, depression, headaches, acne, bloating and intense cravings. Shifts in the hormone levels are associated with increased estrogen in the luteal phase of the menstrual cycle and the cause of PMS. If there is a vitamin deficiency, emotional/physical stress and a poor diet, symptoms are thought to be worse.

Acupressure point massage combinations assist in the release of hormones thereby regulating the menstrual cycle. PMS symptoms will decline as hormonal balance is achieved with regular cycles.

Painful menstruation, also known as dysmenorrhea, is a main cause of women being unable to participate in work and social activities. Primary dysmenorrhea is caused by stress and anxiety, strong uterine contractions and lack of exercise is attributed to most painful menstrual cycles. Endometriosis, which is secondary dysmenorrhea, is now thought to be accountable for some of the cases of painful menstruation.

Acupressure massage is an alternative way to treat infertility problems and is also complimentary to western fertility treatments. Infertility is thought to be caused by an imbalance of energy and blood flow affecting the acupuncture meridian systems. TCM is beneficial because it can provide an effective, natural and safe approach to treatments for infertility.

The following conditions treated with acupuncture and herbs have increased the potential fertility in women: stress reduction, hormone regulation to produce more follicles, increased blood flow to the uterus, better quality eggs by improved function of the ovaries and regulating the menstrual cycle.

. TCM can balance, strengthen and benefit your overall health and support your chances of becoming pregnant.

. Acupuncture and accupressure is recognized as an effective treatment for menstrual irregularities, pain, PMS, fertility, emotional problems, reproductive problems by the National Institute of Health (NIH) and the World Health Organization (WHO). TCM has the ability to treat many disorders women experience monthly without the side effects of conventional medicine.

Meridian Health - gaining importance in today's living

Going back to natural therapy is getting known in today's living and lifestyle. Even the media is highlighting some of the techniques. Readers interested to learn these DIY techniques, can visit DIY Meridian Therapy website

Men & Sex: Can they really do it?

Singapore is topping the charts again!! According to the Asia Medical Conference on Erectile Dysfunction state that 1 out of 2 Singaporean men suffers from erectile dysfunction (impotency). Shocking to most people 70 -80% of impotency is closely related to diseases such as high blood pressure, diabetes, heart diseases, high fat contents and obesity. Lifestyle habits like smoking, alcohol consumption, late nights and lack of exercise are also the contributing factors.

What exactly is impotency? It doesn’t just mean being able to erect. 1 out of 10 sexual intercourse is unable to have an erection or the erection is not hard enough, and also the ability to sustain until the end of the sexual intercourse.

Do you know of anyone who is 100% satisfied with his sex life? Do you know that it is now getting very common especially in developed countries like Singapore but dont let it put you down cos it is that common now. Erectile dysfunction is thought as an omen for cardiovascular and other chronic diseases, we recommend that you summon to courage to seek medical help. Help can also be in the natural way. Abide by the notion that prevention is better than cure.

What are some of the natural way of prevention...Our modern lifestyles are constantly bombarded by stress and other factors giving rise to poor stamina and decreased sex drive. For these modern generation males who lead a busy lifestyles, herbs essential oils that contains szechuan lovage rhizome, juniper are known to rekindle the romantic sparks between couples and paving the way to blissful love.

Szechuan Lovage Rhizome is mild with a hot taste, in Chinese medicine it is commonly used to facilitate flow of blood and qi, harmonise the meridians and strengthen the physique. When circulation of qi and blood is improved, fatigue can be eliminated, stamina will be restored and your body will feel refreshed and revitalised. Other usages include:

1) Enhance Stamina

Men usually feels exhausted from work and this usually affects other aspects of their lives.

Apply the essential oil at the back of the waist; there are specific acupressure points around the area, along the kidney meridian. Direct applications on meridian points like sanyingjiao, and yongquan



"San Yin Jiao"


2) Eliminated Body Aches

Carrying heavy objects may result in body aches. Experience the obvious reduction of body aches and improved productivity by applying the essential oil on the specific bladder and kidney meridians and the acupressure points like Sanyinjiao and Yongquan


All these massages are simple and easy to do; you just to know the how to locate these points and the right herbs to use.

Male Hormone Imbalance

The “mid-life crisis” that affects men in their 40’s and 50’s has never been well understood in medical terms. We now know that men go through hormonal changes in their middle years, just like women do. It’s been termed “andropause”, and it can be just as debilitating and emotionally challenging as menopause can be for women.

Men and women have the same sex hormones in their bodies, just in different proportions. Men have a predominance of testosterone, while their estrogen levels are supposed to be much lower than those of women.

Testosterone is commonly regarded as a “sex hormone”, but it’s a “total body hormone” affecting every cell in the body. As men age, their hormone levels change and this causes a range of effects in the body, including:

• loss of muscle mass
• weight gain especially around the abdomen
• decreased libido and sexual function
• depression

Hormone changes in men are also associated with a range of significant degenerative diseases, including:

• heart disease
• stroke
• diabetes
• arthritis
• osteoporosis
• hypertension

There are several changes in the hormones that contribute to andropause. One is a reduction in free testosterone. But low testosterone is just part of the picture. Research shows that as men age, they convert more of their testosterone to estrogens. In fact, it is the increase in estrogens that is thought to be responsible for Benign Prostatic Hypertrophy (BPH), which is extremely common.

A regimen of natural hormones and specific nutrient and herb supplementation can be prescribed to help boost the free testosterone levels, decrease the excess estrogens, and protect the prostate gland.

The many benefits of herb therapy for men include increased feeling of well-being, increased libido and greater sexual performance and satisfaction, increased strength and stamina and greater muscle mass, and weight loss (especially around the abdomen). There are also longer term benefits such as protection against cardiovascular disease and neurological diseases including Alzheimer’s.

Andropause is not just a psychological phenomenon – it’s a very real physiological change involving the hormones that keep men young and healthy! It is possible to assess hormone levels and develop anti-aging regimens for men as well as women. It’s never too late for a happier, healthier, more satisfying life.

Rate and share the answer in comment

Rate yourself as follows: describes me strongly(A),somewhat(B),or very little(C)

DESIRE STATEMENT SELF RATING

CURIOSITY
I have a thirst for knowledge

ACCEPTANCE
I have a hard time coping with criticism

ORDER
It upsets me when things are out of place

PHYSICAL ACTIVITY
Physical fitness is important to me

HONOR
I am a highly principled and loyal person

POWER
I often seek leadership roles

INDEPENDENCE
Self reliance is essential to my happiness

SOCIAL CONTACT
I am known as a fun loving person

FAMILY
My children comes first

STATUS
I am impressed by people who own expensive things

IDEALISM
Compared with most people, I am very concern withsocial causes

VENGEANCE
It is very important to me to get even with those who insult or offend me

ROMANCE
Compared with my peers, I spend much more time pursuing of having sex

EATING
I love to eat and often fantasize about food

SAVING
I hate throwing things away

TRANQUILITY
It scares me when my heart beat rapidly

Quality of Life and Happiness

What does it take to really make you happy?

Do you know that some people can be happy while in pain and unhappy while experiencing pleasure? To understand this, two kinds of happiness must be distinguished: feel-good and value-based. Feel-good happiness is sensation-based pleasure. When we joke around or have sex, we experience feel-good happiness. Since feel-good happiness is ruled by the law of diminishing returns, the kicks get harder to come by. This type of happiness rarely lasts longer than a few hours at a time.

Value-based happiness is a sense that our lives have meaning and fulfill some larger purpose. It represents a spiritual source of satisfaction, stemming from our deeper purpose and values. We experience value-based happiness when we satisfy any of the basic desires---the more desires we satisfy, the more value-based happiness we experience. Since this form of happiness is not ruled by the law of diminishing returns, there is no limit to how meaningful our lives can be.

These basic desires make us individuals.Although everybody embraces these desires, individuals prioritize them differently… one do not have to satisfy all the desires, only the five or six most important to you.

Most people turn to relationships, careers, family, leisure and spirituality to satisfy their most important desires.

Since we have the potential to satisfy our basic desires through relationships, we can find greater happiness by finding new relationships or by improving the ones we already have. After looking at these basic desires and estimating the five or six most important to you, do the same for your partner, or have your partner take the quiz.

If you have a high desire for acceptance, for example, you need work that exposes you to little evaluation and potential criticism. If you have a high desire for order, you need work that involves minimal ambiguity and exposes you to few changes. If you are a curious person, you need a job that makes you think.

Everyone deserve a satisfying sex life

Before jumping into conclusion, do take sometime to ponder..

This subject is a subject where most of us were curious to know since our younger days and at the same time shy to talk about it. Especially in Asian culture, it is a taboo subject to talk about in the family. Parents often wonder at which age and how should they introduce sex education to their next generation. In fact, seriously speaking, sex plays an important role in our life, it contributes to the population, entertainment to your marriage life and in case you are not aware, the underlying reasons when marriage break down is usually connected to the sex life too.

If i may be philosophical, it spans across moral, ethical, theological, spiritual aspects of life.